Parenthood

 Parenthood is an unexpected journey...

Parenthood is something that comes with no manual. I have had thousands of people advising me the ways to tend and mend my boys. But quite honestly how many of them who thought they are advising me the best way to bring up the kids were actually there in my journey of bringing up my boys on my own?

Still remember the dreadful labour pain that I endured this day thirteen years back, to give birth to my younger one. As of now am on my own with my kids, the other parent decided to drop himself off his duties for a "Better life" as he calls it. Nothing and none of them came easy to me, being a mom and being around to kids who have just me to turn around to.

I haven't been a perfect parent am far from being close to a perfect parent, I know there are days that I don't connect with kids, there are days that I just feel like dropping everything and going to an unknown place where no one would know who I am. 

Parenthood did teach me endurance, love without expecting anything in return and enjoying the little joys of life. I don't know what is in store for me in my future as a mother, but I hope that I can do all that I can for my kids. It has mostly been me embarking on this journey on my own with my kids I don't recall much help from their father. I have mostly never had anyone who would understand what it is to be a lone parent and do all the things that am doing.

Let's hope that if there are other parents like me who have been the only parent around find peace and laughter in all that they do in their journey of parenthood.


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  1. Sheenu.November 22, 2021 at 7:52 AM

    Yes it is an uncharted territory. It is unique and your own path. Being a single parent is difficult and I am no authority on it. I do feel there is hurt and tiredness that you feel as your words suggest but keep going for every parent single or not single is probably feeling the weight of responsibility to make the best of what they have bought into this world. So keep going…. Wishing to read more of you blogs…

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